叫不動別人幫你做,最大的原因是因為自己也不想做

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叫不動別人幫你做,最大的原因是因為自己也不想做

上次聽到一個媽媽在抱怨:「唉,我的孩子,都不幫忙做家事。」

「家裡一團亂,東西都不歸位。」

「怎麼叫他們收,都沒用。」

「你們都怎麼教孩子的?我們家簡直亂的像豬窩一樣……。」

顯然這個話題吸引了所有媽媽。

大家紛紛靠過來,紛紛呼應剛剛那位媽媽說的話。

大家都有一樣的問題:孩子不收東西。

不幫忙做家事。

不維持整潔。

不過,大家講了一圈,還是沒有「解答」。

直到有一位媽媽突然說了。

「我倒是有個習慣……。」

大家轉過頭來看那位媽媽。

什麼習慣?

「我都是先說服自己,收東西很有趣、很有趣、很有趣。」她說:「然後當我開始收東西,命令小朋友過來,他們也會跟著收了。」

嘩?

這麼神奇?

那個媽媽繼續說明。

「我發現,」那位媽媽說:「如果我自己都不想收,孩子是『感覺』得到的。」

我覺得蠻有道理。

大人經常認為,小朋友不「幫忙」。

重點是,為何我們需要小朋友幫忙?

是真的想訓練他們?還是只是希望他們分擔一些些討厭又痛苦的家裡事?

我們應該問自己一個問題:「我們自己,想收這些東西嗎?」

如果我們自己都是想收的,其實不必這麼擔心,因為很快的,孩子肯定會變成像你一樣。就有一個潔癖的朋友,他們家女兒一直吐槽媽媽有多麼誇張的愛乾淨,把她們弄得很毛,不過,仔細觀察,那個小女孩每次餐前竟然也習慣一定要仔細將杯子和盤子擦拭乾淨,才敢開始吃東西。

這種事,其實也充斥在職場上。

上級命令你做某某事,往往是因為他自己「不想做」,所以要你做。

這時候,你肯定也會被感染到那種「他不想做」的氣氛,甚至連「不想做,就推給別人」也一併學起來了。

叫不動別人做,最大的原因是因為自己很有可能也不想做。

要解決這問題,第一個動作是讓自己想要做,就可以輕鬆的說服別人做。

訓練下一代聽命令做,不如教下一代,如何鼓勵自己更想做。

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